Are there times when you realise that you are snapping in a conversation, retreating in silence, or bending over backward to keep the peace but then after think, why did I do that? These reactions are often automatic. But they’re not random. In many cases, they’re echoes from earlier in life, shaped by our earliest experiences with connection, safety, and love.
Saying no or not agreeing to be involved with something shouldn’t feel unsafe. And yet, for many adults, setting boundaries can feel terrifying. You worry about being seen as selfish, rude, or unkind. You might have feelings of guilt or that you are responsible. You might even avoid setting boundaries altogether, choosing to feel resentful over rejection.
If you are constantly busy and slowing down feels impossible, you’re not alone. Many adults live in constant overwhelm always doing, giving, fixing, or anticipating. At first glance, it might look like they have an abundance of energy or are ambitious and dedicated. But often, this continual busyness hides a deeper emotional pattern that began long before adulthood.
A common phrase I hear from women doing inner work is, but my childhood wasn’t that bad. A statement that often comes just before describing their behaviours of people pleasing, emotional shutdowns, anxiety, or feeling “stuck” in adulthood.
Do you want something it could be a new job, a promotion, wanting to start a business but feel like something is stopping you?
I used to say “yes” far too often. Yes, I’ll do that for you, even when I was really busy or tired and I didn’t want to do. Yes, to people who drained me. Yes, to demands that left me depleted. I thought being available made me kind, helpful, even lovable. But deep down, I was tired, overwhelmed, and quietly resentful. When someone asked me where are your boundaries? I had no idea what this meant. When I found Emotional Freedom Techniques / tapping it was the answer I didn’t know I needed. I began to understand what boundaries are and why they are needed and how it is possible, after the emotions have been cleared around a person or people pleasing behaviours, to put a boundary in place.
When we think of relationships, we often automatically think of romantic ones, but we experience many different kinds of relationships. We have relationships with our parents, siblings, children, friends, and colleagues, and any of these can face difficulties or go through challenging times.
Co-dependency is a term we’re hearing more often, but what does it mean, and how can we recognize it in ourselves or those we care about?
Self-confidence is one of the most important traits that can determine the level of success we achieve in life. It is the ability to believe in oneself, to trust our instincts, and to feel capable of overcoming challenges. Yet, for many people, self-confidence is a struggle. It can be easy to fall into the trap of self-doubt and negative self-talk, which can hold us back from reaching our full potential. The good news is that self-confidence can be developed and strengthened over time, with the right mindset and practices. In this blog, we will explore what self-confidence is, why it is important, and how to build it.
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